Most of us, quite rightly, love make-up. It gives us confidence, helps us look our best, and can be really fun to experiment with. There is nothing wrong with embracing a bit of slap, and there should be no right or wrong for how much or little you wear. There was a time for all of us however when we started wearing make-up, and at that point something happened: We became dissatisfied with our natural faces.
I’m not going to tell you to ditch the make-up sister ’cause you’re naturally beautiful, because I know you wouldn’t believe me. I know I wouldn’t, because the thing is, very few of us are, really, naturally drop dead gorgeous. Hence why we wear make-up – to take our nice-enough faces to looking pretty darn fabulous. The problem however is how you’re left feeling about your natural, nice-enough face. It’s the face you were born with, and I am going to reassure you that it’s pretty similar to everyone else’s face without make-up, but it’s somehow not enough to know this.
We need to ask ourselves honestly whether our fresh face limits are healthy ones. I know that I hands down would not go to a lecture or to the pub without make-up on, but I feel that this isn’t going into the realms of unhealthy. Your relationship with your face, and with that yourself, can suffer though if your limits get narrower and narrower. Would you go to the supermarket without make-up on? The gym? The corner shop? Do you have certain people who are ‘allowed’ to see you without make-up, as if you know these people will base your worth on your personality rather than your looks, when really it shouldn’t be the other way around with anyone?
What would honestly happen if we did turn up to a 9am lecture without make-up on? I’m going to take a wild guess and say ‘nothing much’. Maybe someone would ask ‘rough night?’, but fair enough, no one’s asking you to believe you actually look just as smoking fresh faced. More likely though, is that your girlfriends would actually be impressed that you are secure enough and confident enough to be comfortable with your natural looks, as it’s something we’d all like to be.
Ditching make-up is not the answer. There is nothing wrong with improving what your mamma gave you, and feeling great about yourself thanks to some well applied foundation or fab looking eye-liner. Maybe it would do us all some good however if we learnt to not need make-up, all day, every day, and to feel okay about how we look in the mirror. Whether that’s just doing your weekly shop without it, or not minding having a little less on once in a while, we need to learn to see that our fresh faces are not actually all that scary.