Make-Up: Your Relationship With Your Face.

Most of us, quite rightly, love make-up. It gives us confidence, helps us look our best, and can be really fun to experiment with. There is nothing wrong with embracing a bit of slap, and there should be no right or wrong for how much or little you wear. There was a time for all of us however when we started wearing make-up, and at that point something happened: We became dissatisfied with our natural faces.

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I’m not going to tell you to ditch the make-up sister ’cause you’re naturally beautiful, because I know you wouldn’t believe me. I know I wouldn’t, because the thing is, very few of us are, really, naturally drop dead gorgeous. Hence why we wear make-up – to take our nice-enough faces to looking pretty darn fabulous. The problem however is how you’re left feeling about your natural, nice-enough face. It’s the face you were born with, and I am going to reassure you that it’s pretty similar to everyone else’s face without make-up, but it’s somehow not enough to know this.

We need to ask ourselves honestly whether our fresh face limits are healthy ones. I know that I hands down would not go to a lecture or to the pub without make-up on, but I feel that this isn’t going into the realms of unhealthy. Your relationship with your face, and with that yourself, can suffer though if your limits get narrower and narrower. Would you go to the supermarket without make-up on? The gym? The corner shop? Do you have certain people who are ‘allowed’ to see you without make-up, as if you know these people will base your worth on your personality rather than your looks, when really it shouldn’t be the other way around with anyone?

What would honestly happen if we did turn up to a 9am lecture without make-up on? I’m going to take a wild guess and say ‘nothing much’. Maybe someone would ask ‘rough night?’, but fair enough, no one’s asking you to believe you actually look just as smoking fresh faced. More likely though, is that your girlfriends would actually be impressed that you are secure enough and confident enough to be comfortable with your natural looks, as it’s something we’d all like to be.

Ditching make-up is not the answer. There is nothing wrong with improving what your mamma gave you, and feeling great about yourself thanks to some well applied foundation or fab looking eye-liner. Maybe it would do us all some good however if we learnt to not need make-up, all day, every day, and to feel okay about how we look in the mirror. Whether that’s just doing your weekly shop without it, or not minding having a little less on once in a while, we need to learn to see that our fresh faces are not actually all that scary.

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6 Comments

  1. January 19, 2015 / 11:11 am

    I’ve definitely become a lot more comfortable with my natural face in recent years, but I really enjoy wearing make up, I like how it makes me look and how I can play with eyeshadows and wear bright lipsticks. It’s fun for me, although it is also a necessity. I wouldn’t go out without make up, I’d pop to the shop or gym without make up, but in general I always put make up on. It’s just something I do like brushing my hair or wearing jewellery, not a necessity but just something I do.

    Emma x
    Writing Essays With Wine

    • Emily
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      January 19, 2015 / 2:50 pm

      Yay I’m glad to hear that 🙂 I’m the same, I could never, or would never want to give up make-up, it just makes me feel a million times nicer! I also think there is something therapeutic in putting it on, I like the routine!

  2. January 20, 2015 / 6:00 pm

    I’ve become a lot more comfortable going out with little to no makeup on in the past year and it was something rather unexpected that did it for me… I simply can’t afford the amount of makeup I used to buy, so I save my good makeup for special occasions. Now I’m just so used to what my face looks like naturally that I barely even think twice!
    (I will admit though, if I’m meeting somebody new for the first time, I have to have my makeup on!) xx

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    • Emily
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      January 21, 2015 / 6:38 am

      That’s awesome! I think a lot of it is just getting used to your natural face 🙂 Other people get used to it too so nobody even notices if you haven’t got any/much on!

  3. January 28, 2015 / 4:49 pm

    I got into the habit of ‘needing’ make up every day to look how I wanted. I didn’t wear it around the house or just popping out, but for school or uni I always had some on. Nowadays I try not to be so mindless about it. I look at myself in the mirror and think about whether actually I’m happy looking natural that day. Sure, sometimes I look tired, have uneven skin, a few spots and am having a ‘bad eyelash day’ (please someone agree that’s a thing?!) and I see no problem with enhancing the good features again. But other days I wake up and look fine – perhaps better than I would do with wonky eyeliner and patchy foundation that would inevitably happen on those days!
    Jennifer x
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    • Emily
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      January 30, 2015 / 5:21 am

      That’s so good that you have learnt to choose between make-up or no make-up! I feel like I need to do this, although there are very few days where I don’t have naturally patchy skin! Haha, I can’t say I’ve ever had a bad eye-lash day?! I agree though, sometimes going natural even looks better than with badly applied or rushed make-up!

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